Tuesday, October 06, 2009

Looking forward

Some people spend too much time looking backward at the what-if's and the used-to-be's and the used-to-haves. Not me. I look to the now and the future. I am especially looking forward to the not-so-distant future. This weekend in fact! We are going to get to see BigB's mom and dad, and PB&J, Rush, Tuff and BabyK! I am really looking forward to it. I am not, however, wishing away the days in order to get there as I am making the best of the days I have been given and not what could have been or should have been. Look to the future; go straight up the middle and TOUCHDOWN!

Now I realize that parts of this post won't make sense to some but it makes perfect sense to me and, well, it is my blog so let's hope it does. {Grin}


won said...

I wanted to respond to your note. I appreciate that you wrote it. Please know that I have removed it. As you mentioned it was likely not the best place for it, but nonetheless, I appreciate you writing it.

Here is a response I wrote that I want to share with you. I understand you deleting it once you've read it too!
Here is the quote I was looking for last night:

"A remark generally hurts in proportion to it's truth" -Will Rogers

I was not hurt last night.

I feel the need to address one thing. I posted what I did last night not to stir the pot. That's not how I roll.

I posted it because (and I reiterate), it bothers me to see people strung along. It's deja vu all over again.

As Tara in NC pointed out: "I just can't spend my day refreshing tweets over and over - glad someone just came out with the news finally!" And it was indeed the tweets prior to my posting that was the catalyst for my doing so. It felt to me, that people were indeed being strung along. That to me is motivated by ego, and not an honorable way to treat people.

One thing you can take to the bank with me is if I have something to say, I'm gonna say it. Flat out. Without ulterior motive or disregard for emotion. And I think when you have successfully invested people emotionally into your story, along with that comes a certain responsibility and I was honestly just trying to save people from what I felt was ill intended.

Liking to choose words carefully, I just did a search of the phrase "ill intended". Here's what it rendered:

"First, ill-intended leaders don’t answer questions. When asked a straight question they have a charming or sophisticated way of either changing the question or ignoring it all together. They will do this especially when the questions are tough and demanding of an answer. The smart listener recognizes rhetoric that goes nowhere when they hear it."

You will notice that before I made my post, lots of people had taken the bait, and tweeted to JM, pleading for an answer in response to her previous tweets implying that a baby was about to be born, but never being given a straight answer.

That's where I'm at this morning. That another place too (and more importantly). I have a new post up sharing that.

BTW-my email is won 2xx aT gmail dOt com if you feel the desire to use it. Have a peaceful day.

heather said...

what a great post! it's something that i need to really think about and work on. i am one of those who is very much "stuck in the past". my mind is often filled with memories.

the strangest thing is that when i think back to any particular time that i remember as being a great time...i never realized it at the time. if that makes sense. most likely because even then i was still stuck in the past.

so your post is giving me a challenge to try and live in the moment and be hopeful for the future. i have improved a bit about letting the past remain in the past. there is still a lot of work to be done though.